To disrupt the stigma around family violence, we have to face the harsh realities. Once you are more aware, you will start to recognize what is out there. And there are no trigger warnings in real life.

The anguish comes in waves.

The biggest crashes are when my children cry out for you. They are innocent and unknowing of what you have done to me, and what you have done to them.

One-in-three women also share this secret! It's something that fills us with shame, pain, self-blame... and fear! We become experts at keeping this secret, leading those around us to think everything's okay and that we've got this.

I hope you never have to experience this or never have. 

Three years ago one of my friends died in a brutal, violent, senseless way.

Her death in a murder / suicide killing spree in central Alberta shook my world.

I am no stranger to domestic abuse. I lived with it for most of my life. Does that make it any harder (or easier) to process, to deal with, to understand violence & abuse? No. Not really. Why?

Could you be at your worst & don’t even know it?

You may be thinking..

Hey.. I’ve survived so far. It’s not that bad..
I can probably keep pushing through.
I don’t want anyone to know I’m struggling.
People will judge me & think I’m not capable/strong or have my shit together.

BUT WAIT!!!
Stop. Right. There.
This is SO SUPER IMPORTANT.
You may be in survival mode & don’t even know it.

The #1 thing you need to do is find out if you are.

Do this with me. Please. It just takes a few minutes & could CHANGE YOUR LIFE.

When you go through life looking for silver linings and your personal superpower is positivity, not everyone appreciates it. At least that’s what I’ve found. Some people even get downright pissy about it.

Have you ever been accused of being uninformed, unrealistic and naïve? How did that make you feel? Like an idiot? Did you dial back the warm sunshine of your personality and let some shady clouds of doubt cover your light? Here’s some tips

Does January bring you down? Every. Damn. Year?

Everyone is talking about resolutions & goals, but you’re feeling like a colossal failure just thinking of how last year went.
You didn’t accomplish what you wanted to. You gained weight, wasted money & time, drank too much, (insert all the failures you’re beating yourself up about).

You feel pressured to declare your resolutions, but already know you’ll break most of them .. again..

So what does this have to do with vampires?

I am not just over here manifesting unicorns and glittery rainbows.. every so often, I've got some shitty situations that really harsh my mellow. Just because I'm a mindset coach that encourages and guides my clients to choose a positive, optimistic response to whatever crosses their path, doesn't mean I'm immune to crappy deals and letting someone flip my switch .. like when I’m reeling from a bitch attack and need to figure out some serious boundaries..

July 7, 2021 was Global Forgiveness Day.

Yes, Forgiveness… that enigmatic concept of letting something go that has hurt you. Some words, or action, or omission, by another person, intentional, or not.

Forgiveness… for most of us, is a really, really, tough pill to swallow..

I had a huge aha moment recently about forgiveness.